Today I talked to a friend I have known since junior high school. He is all growed up now, and married to a beautiful woman. They drive new cars. They live in the suburbs. It is his beautiful wife's 35th birthday today, and when I asked as to how she is doing, he said that she is not well today. She feels sick. She has her period. She imagined that by her 35th birthday, that she would have children. She does not. They do not.
I feel sad for her on this day, which is her 35th birthday, when she is like so many people who get caught up inside the hole that is all the things they do not have, so that they are not living the life they do have. Today I will celebrate for her on her 35th birthday: I will celebrate that she has married my friend, who will always be good to her. Also he is nice to look at, so that helps. I will celebrate that she has many people who love her. I will celebrate that she has monogrammed flatware and bright eyes and good health. I will also celebrate my own tremendous good fortune on this, her 35th birthday, for the gift she gave me: a quiet but powerful reminder that I am not in that hole today, because I am living the life I have, with and without.
4 comments:
Thank you for that timely reminder, for those of us who forget that we are lucky in the lives we have.
Happy birthday to Jennifer who has no kids and thanks to Zetta for the link!
*mwah*
Voix.
what a great post, zetta. thanks for reminding me to keep it all in perspective, too.
and, i'm so glad you are remembering to stay present in your own life. you rock, lady!
Excellent points all of them. I understand Jennifer's perspective too, being a Pisces myself. However, it seems like she could be having those children pretty darned ASAP if that choice was made.
Oh, Fran says hello and he'll be showing his true colors soon enough. Stay tuned.
-PA
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